Conflict is tough to deal with, especially in complicated situations like stepfamilies. Sometimes it helps to have a few ground rules established so that conflict can be productive and healthy. It’s often helpful for a couple to take the time to develop their own “fair fighting rules.” Here are a few popular examples:
Stick to the topic at hand (i.e. avoid the “kitchen sink” trap where one issue leads to the next)
Seek to understand your partner
Fight by mutual consent (i.e. agree on the time and place to discuss issue)
Use respectful words and tone (i.e. no name calling, yelling, swearing)
Avoid exaggerations
Don’t make threats